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June 30th, 2008 — Experiences, Relationships
I recently had an eye opening experience in one of the orkut discussion forums. A thread started by a person to boast about Indian culture and thrash western culture turned nasty when discussions turned to the topic “Premarital sex”.
The Indians gained an advantage with this topic, but it was short lived with a reply from a western counter part. The following was his comment.
“You are blaming us for having premarital sex, but its not as bad as marrying cousins and uncles“.
That was the end of that discussion. There was no argument from the Indian side to counter it. We lost the war, but it created a wave of thoughts in me.
Never think of any culture as superior or inferior. All cultures evolved into its current form cos the society needed it. For the Hindus marrying cousins is very acceptable. In Tamil Nadu, girls marry their uncles. From a western perspective its bad.
Cohabitation is very acceptable in the western culture. But parents here faint at the thought of it. Muslims are legally allowed to have 4 wifes simultaneously. Divorce is just three words for them. If you are a non muslim and if you are divorced, you will face some serious discrimination in the society.
Now, Which is wrong and which is right ?
I guess the answer would be, “Everything is right“.
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March 1st, 2008 — Relationships
Today I Opened the Assissi magazine (Christian magazine) and was surprised to see an advertisement. Chavara Matrimony (matrimony site for Christians) is conducting a Marriage Fair. The event is called “Mega Marriage Fair”.
Now, for my readers from the western world, We do things a bit different here. We dont have dating sites, instead we have matrimonial sites. Both are the same, but in a matrimonial site people end up getting married. So is this marriage fair an Indian adaptation of blind dating groups ?
I dont know how a marriage fair works cos ive never attended one. For those who dont believe, you can check my DOB in the about me page. But the advertisement says “Its your golden chance to find a suitable life partner”. Hmmmm Im going to imagine how it will be…
Will it be like different stalls for different girl categories ? software stall, nurses stall, NRI stall, govt employed stall, teachers stall, jobless stall etc…. And men will walk by looking at the items in display, Will there be resumes ? Or is it like “Swayam Varam”
Or will be it like stalls for men… ahh I dont want to think that way…. my ego wont let me think that way.
If anyone has experience attending marriage fairs, please comment
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July 27th, 2007 — Relationships
Peak time for love affairs is +2 and college. Many a times what happens is that we “fall in love” or we “jump in love”.
Falling is the natural way to go about it. Starting your relationship with out any intention of taking it forward, but you end up falling in love. This kind of love, even though the best love, is hard to succeed as falling is never calculated and we live in a very much calculated society. The pair may be able to live together if they get married, but the society will always stand between them.
You jump into love when you go and make a commitment to someone, with out knowing the person enough. It usually happens that you like the person at the first glance and then you go propose and make a commitment. Jumping with out calculation also results in failures, the same problems, social pressure and incompatibility may also result since the pairs jumped into the affair without giving it enough time.
So whats the best method.
So Id suggest that we crawl into love, taking a small step at a time. Do your analysis, whether this relationship if started will succeed, who all can come in between, and if everything can be managed, take the slow route, crawl in slowly so that you can crawl out at any point with out much of a damage.
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