Part 5
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I hope I have scared the shit out of you guys. Because marriage is quite scary – it is a big decision – a decision that might change your life forever and there might be no going back. But why do we really get married …? I wonder?
To satisfy our parents? I don’t think so… that is just an excuse. To satisfy the society? Hmmm… now who can ever do that? Then what is it? To satisfy our sexual needs? Well there are other ways to do that… None of the reasons I have mentioned in the first 4 parts are good enough to get married. Well then – what is it?
Companionship – throughout our life we are always looking for people who can be our friends… who can be our companions. Somebody whom you can talk to… Someone whom you can open up to… someone you can hug… someone with whom you can laugh… cry and spend those special moments.
When you are kids – you keep your mom and dad … and even your grandparents busy with your chitter-chatter. You talk about anything and everything. And you see their smiling faces and continue happily with lots of energy 
… convincing them you are really clever.
You grow up and become a teenager and realize they were smiling at your stupidity… your cuteness. Now you need someone who can understand your level of talk. Who else better that your class mates . You create your own little groups with password handshakes and hugs.
This goes on all your school and college life. Going for a movie together … eating out together … giggling together… and what not. College life ends … friends find jobs … get busy with trying to make a living. Now you feel lonely… the boss at work does not care about you as a person… he does not care what you think and what you don’t… nor do your co-workers – everybody is just interested in making their wallets & purse bigger.
When you are feeling left out … then you meet someone who is willing to listen to all your stupidity… who is ready to hug you… who is ready to laugh with you… who is ready to cry with you… that one special person … the friend for life!
This is perhaps one of the only few series on KJ that has kept my interest sustained for this long and I am sorry I did not comment earlier. I like to listen more than talk most of the time
It is lovely, the way you find the perfect excuse for us to get married!! Companionship is the only reason we really need to get married.
Comment by TheAnand — December 9, 2009 @ 11:37 am
I dont agree with this point. What about people who get married, but their partner leaves them some or the other? Dont they need companionship for life? They could get over and re-marry.
Comment by deepa m john — December 10, 2009 @ 3:49 pm
This is continuation of the last comment.
But do you think they will ever get over with their last life? there will be comparisons, if not openly, within heart. “My first one was like this, the current one is like this.”
Well, anyways, in India, its more for society than companionship or sexual needs or anything else. But the basic idea was companionship, hence all that Sati-savithri stuff.
But now its all for society. However, my main suggestion to all is that if you are not ready to take the responsibility of the other person (Sometimes, the whole family of the partner), please dont get into such a relationship.
To me marriage is a way to have companionship for life long. That does not need anyone to satisfy any one else, except yourself.
Comment by deepa m john — December 10, 2009 @ 4:07 pm